14 Oct

Give and take. The Golden Rule. Love your neighbor as you love yourself. If these things are not ingrained in most of us, they are at least commonplace. There’s nothing like a long walk through the professional desert to make one realize the importance of a helping hand, a giving heart — a friend. True friendship is, after all, true service, a wise person once said.

Maybe my being a few years into parenthood or even more years into my 30s makes them more apparent, but displays of selfishness and disrespect by people whom I’ve gone out of my way to assist are really revolting. No doubt my 9-to-5 soul has been made barren by the excruciating economy and the accompanying job search (whether with or without employment) that seemingly wants never to end, but isn’t it pretty simple — I help you, you help me?

One “friend” got multiple freelance assignments (thus hundreds of dollars of supplemental revenue) from me, an online recommendation, many phone calls’ worth of effort as a reference during his/her job search and food & beverage treats here and there. Yet when it came time for my networking need, I was lucky to get two e-mail responses from this person in two months.

If the moral fiber is lacking, then smart folks like this person should be able to recognize their obligation from a mental standpoint. As Robert S. Littell writes in “The Heart and Art of Netweaving,” the practical benefits of giving — i.e., providing professional network help — abound:

“It’s a ‘win-win’ for the people who are connected or for whom resources and/or information is provided. It’s a ‘win’ for the NetWeaver who is the ‘matchmaker’ or strategic connector who not only derives ‘business’ benefits from his or her NetWeaving, but a source of energy which only comes from helping others with no hidden agenda. But NetWeaving also supplies a fourth ‘win’ — directed toward the community, or the company, or the Chamber of Commerce or any organization (especially charitable) involved where the NetWeaving is ‘contagious.’ The more people doing it, the more people will want to do it. (It enriches the entire environment.)”

So be polite and requite! As a country singer of relatively recent vintage crooned:

You see the road you leave behind you

Is another road you’re gonna have to come back down

It’s just the way this big old world turns ’round

You’ll find somehow somewhere someplace sometime

You gotta go back down the road you leave behind



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